Well now, what on earth happened here?!? 12 goals in 12 months…. hmmm…seems I lost my way somewhere along that time line. Here it is September 2014… three and a half years after I stated this blog with my intentions of reaching new goals each month to improve my life. Ha, well done, Girl (insert smirk here).
I am happy to report, however, that all was not lost. Looking back today at these past goals, I have to smile and pat myself on the back because I did, in fact, accomplish something. Following is a run through of my original goals and where I am today.
1. Start a blog. Well, I did START the blog. Unfortunately, the “keep it running” part proved to be a bit out of reach for me. I find it very ironic that I stopped writing around the same time Pinterest launched. bahahahahah!
2. The Marriage Thing. This one did get worked on. And on and on and on. I landed on a therapists couch in June 2011. Three years of therapy and counselling later, we’re still not a perfect couple. But I also learned that perfect couples really don’t exist. Silly me. I did learn many new tools to handle my anxiety, depression and discontent. It’s a work in progress still, but so worth working on! My husband has been a willing participant throughout, but it’s a work in progress for him as well. Gentle, and not so gentle, reminders are a part of our daily lives.
3. Organize office & calendar. I’ve done a few clean outs of my office space, but it’s still a mess. For every 1 item I toss, 2 more land on my desk. I’m starting to think that office organization can only be obtained after retirement. As for the calendar, that’s come along nicely thanks to droids and iPhones. Also, the Mr. has taken over a lot of the calendared items. I don’t even bother myself with soccer game times. That’s his department. My system is 3-pronged, based on my Outlook, Mr.’s Outlook, and the family fridge calendar. All appointments that effect family are scheduled in Outlook with an invite sent to my husband (or vice-versa). These are synched with our phones so we’re alerted if we’re not at our desk. (As an aside, I switched from droid to iphone this year. I totally prefer droid! The calendar widget and reminders are so much better.) We then manually add the event to the calendar hanging in the kitchen. I use Mom’s Family Calendar. It gives lots of space to write in dailies for each family member, has great stickers and a pocket to hold papers.
4. Create a Will. Gah, not done. The cobblers kids wear no shoes. (You see, my husband is an attorney. You’d think we’d have one, right?? ha!)
5. Become a kayaker. DONE! Omg, do I love kayaking. We bought 2 beautiful kayaks that each fit a parent & child. We’ve paddled oceans, lakes and rivers from New Hampshire to Florida over the past few years. I’ve found the utmost serenity by waking up at dawn and getting out on the lake before anyone else has touched the water. Being alone with nature and wildlife in silence with my kayak is about as wonderful as a morning can get.
6. Build a craft space. I’ve completed that task, but it’s a pretty crowded, disorganized space. I might add this to my next set of goals.
7. Happy 10th Anniversary. Mission accomplished! My husband and I took a wonderful trip to Florida without the kids. That was the first trip we’ve had without the kids in years. We explored the everglades, fed an alligator, hung out by the beach, and sipped cocktails in the Keys. We were happy and in love. So much that we decided to go again for our 12th anniversary.
8. Be happier at work. I’ve been working on little ways to make myself feel happier and valuable, like taking on more creative tasks and forcing myself to interact more with coworkers.
9. Christmas savings. I can’t remember how I did with this goal, but my credit card debt is still pretty high, so I’m guessing I failed at it.
10. Lose the spare tire. Ummm… still working on this one.
11. Enjoy my 41st year. I’m sure I had a fun birthday, but overall I was completely buried in stress, anxiety and depression. Luckily though, I think I’m easing up a bit on myself as I age. I’m now 43 and feel a lot more content. I still have lots I want to work on, but I don’t beat myself up as much as I used to.
12. Learn to make pottery. Accomplished! I started taking pottery lessons in January 2012. I’m going into my 3rd year as a studio member, and I’m loving every minute of it! It feels so good when I turn out a beautiful piece of handmade pottery. I’ve since bought my own wheel for my house so I can work at home when the studio is closed. One of my new goals is going to be setting up a proper studio space for myself here at the house.
Looking back at the list, I realize that, though I didn’t accomplish all my goals, I still have done much to be proud of. I am a work in progress and there will always be bumps in the road. I’m looking forward to coming up with new goals for myself, continuing to work on the previous goals, and staying accountable with this blog!